Since 2026 · A late-night magazine

Sex, kink, dating, and the things that don't fit in a wellness app.

Late-night advice, essays, and the occasional argument we couldn't drop.

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Kink · Explainer

What 'beta' actually means in BDSM (and what it doesn't)

The word 'beta' lives in three different communities and means three different things. Here's the kink usage, the manosphere usage, and the chan-board pejorative, sorted out plainly.

By Marlowe Vex · 7 min · May 24, 2026

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Sex · Essay

Wet dreams, in adults

Adults still have wet dreams. Here's what's actually happening, why nobody talks about it past age sixteen, and what to do about it (almost nothing).

Marlowe Vex · 5 min · May 24, 2026
Sex · Explainer
The silicone-lube-and-silicone-toys question, settled
6 min · May 24, 2026
Sex · List
11 sex positions worth knowing — the rest you can skip
7 min · May 24, 2026
Sex · Essay
Sexual choking: what the research actually says about harm reduction
10 min · May 24, 2026

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Kink · How-to

Tease and denial: a beginner's actual guide

What tease and denial actually is, how a real session goes on both sides, and why the negotiation matters more than the technique.

Marlowe Vex · 8 min · May 24, 2026
Kink · List
9 taboo fantasies nearly everyone has (and what they actually mean)
10 min · May 24, 2026
Kink · Essay
Subspace, in plain language
6 min · May 24, 2026
Kink · List
Finding kink partners in 2026: the 6 apps and spaces that actually work
8 min · May 24, 2026

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Dating · Essay

Texting after a first date, calmly

The whole timing-rules industry around the post-first-date text is selling you a problem. Send it when you have something to say. That's the post.

Marlowe Vex · 5 min · May 24, 2026
Dating · List
7 signs the FWB just became a relationship (and what to do about it)
8 min · May 24, 2026
Dating · Essay
The first kiss: what it actually tells you
7 min · May 24, 2026
Dating · How-to
The exclusivity talk: 5 scripts for when you're ready and they might be
7 min · May 24, 2026

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Relationships · Essay

Transactional vs. balanced relationships

Half the internet says transactional relationships are shallow. The other half says everything is a transaction. Both halves are dodging the real question, which is whether the trade is on the table.

Marlowe Vex · 8 min · May 24, 2026
Relationships · Essay
Resentment, quietly
7 min · May 24, 2026
Relationships · List
9 red flags that actually matter (and 5 everyone's wrong about)
10 min · May 24, 2026
Relationships · Essay
When you've lost attraction to your partner — and when you haven't
8 min · May 24, 2026

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