In dating.
Apps, first dates, hookups, and finding people.
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Dating · List
11 ways to ask someone out by text without sounding like a hostage
Eleven actual texts you could send to ask someone out: the direct ask, the low-stakes hang, the plan-with-an-out, the honest version, and seven more. All short, all human.
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Dating · How-to
The exclusivity talk: 5 scripts for when you're ready and they might be
Five honest scripts for the are-we-exclusive talk: the early-and-clear ask, the are-we-already check, the asymmetric ask, the before-X deadline, and how to defer.
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Dating · Essay
The first kiss: what it actually tells you
The first kiss isn't a test you pass or fail. It's a piece of information, and most of what it tells you is about pacing, attentiveness, and whether you and this person read a room at the same speed.
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Dating · List
7 signs the FWB just became a relationship (and what to do about it)
Seven honest signs your friends-with-benefits arrangement has quietly stopped being one, written for the person doing the drifting as much as the one watching it happen.
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Dating · Essay
Texting after a first date, calmly
The whole timing-rules industry around the post-first-date text is selling you a problem. Send it when you have something to say. That's the post.